truly understand your significant other
Create a winning relationship
[within two weeks]
Catapult Your Communication and Reduce the Conflict
If you're in a relationship that is good but not great, stuck in neutral, or even going in reverse, you probably already know that the key to getting your relationship on the path to excellence is off the charts communication. Couples that have it, make being together look effortless.
Thanks Captain obvious.
I’m sure you’ve heard scientific statistics over the years like 93% of happy couples stated their partner understands how they feel.
Yes, we all know that a relationship is a two-way street with good communication as the solid foundation to help the road stay smooth and accident free.
You’ve also probably realized that it's easier said than done.
HERE'S WHAT YOU
MIGHT NOT KNOW
Even if you’re in a relationship that’s in good shape at the moment, truly understanding your significant other and improving your communication will:
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Create More Productive Conversations.
Once you see the perspective of where your significant other communicates from and he/she sees yours, you’ll know the best way to start the conversation so you immediately lock in on their main priority in the conversation to reach a positive outcome. -
Provide Understanding for Why He/She Behaves a Certain Way.
You probably already know that you and your significant other are cut from a different cloth. There are mysteries that are hidden in such simple things as why they do what they do on a daily basis. You’ll get answers to questions such as:
- Why is he/she focused on work all the time?
- Why does everything have to be fun? Can't he/she be serious for a minute?
- For once, why can't he/she make a decision on where you go out to eat?
- Why does he/she always have to be right?
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Help You Discover What Motivates Him/Her.
In general terms is it money, fame, family, personal achievement or something totally different? Is it the same thing that motivates you? Understanding what drives your significant other to do what they do can open doors to a happier healthier life together. -
Reduce Conflict.
Not all conflict is bad. Positive conflict brings about meaningful changes in any situation. However, when we don’t understand the foundations behind our own perspectives, much less those of our significant other, we have no common ground to acknowledge his/her feelings and thoughts. This leads to arguments and misunderstandings galore.
Even though the rationale to truly understand your significant other and communicate more effectively with him/her is obvious, the path to doing it successfully is anything but. We don't know what we don't know.
Create a Winning Relationship?
Let's Go!
Now Where in the World Do I Start?
Perhaps in your most courageous moments, you thought to yourself, “Something has to change.”
You thought about sitting down with your significant other to have a conversation and it just didn’t happen. The moment passed and then the next opportunity slipped away.
Here's Why Most People Don't Start the Conversation:
They don’t know where it’s going to end. They don’t have a road map for how the relationship can improve. They and their significant other can easily identify issues or potential roadblocks in their relationships, but not the steps to take to fix them.
This is crippling to the relationship.
Without consistent purposeful conversation that focuses on improvement, uncomfortable or negative feelings are kept inside for longer periods of time. Those feelings are then revealed in eruptions of anger or sadness.
The conversation ends up with the two of you sitting at the foot of the bed, one or both of you crying, when someone says, “You’re not the same person I fell in love with.”
Couples can sometimes further withdraw from each other in order to avoid the conflict. If this becomes a pattern, the relationship isn’t likely to flourish much less survive.
What Can Be Done About It?
If the couple had a plan or program, a GUIDE if you will, to understand each other’s behavior and communication style, they would have the key to long term success.
The 5 Reasons You Haven't Taken the Steps to Dramatically Improve Your Relationship With Your Significant Other
We've Been Together Too Long.
Whether you've been together for 30 days or 30 years, when you discover transformative knowledge it is a key unlocking the door to new ideas you didn’t know existed. When you apply it in your relationship, the positive results are almost instantaneous.
I Can't Change Him/Her.
That’s just it. You don’t have to. You don’t need to. You first need to understand yourself, then begin to understand him or her. Once that happens, the communication process become so much simpler.
We Are Just Getting Started. Everything's Good.
That's why they call it the honeymoon phase. You are still getting to know each other better. That's all the more reason to learn strategies early in your relationship so you can avoid all of the potential potholes on your journey together.
There's Too Much Water Under the Bridge.
If the water represents the issues that have come up during your time together, where did that water come from? What is the source? If you have the right tools you can build a new bridge and start over from there.
We're Not in Any Kind of Trouble. We're Doing OK.
You're doing OK? Really. In this one time race we call life, you’re going to settle for “OK”? I don’t think so. You deserve so much better.
Shh...I'm going to let you in on a little secret...
Your significant other has a lens that he/she sees the world through. It shapes their thoughts, words, actions, pace, and focus. I can almost guarantee you that it is DIFFERENT THAN YOURS. If you are expecting your partner’s behavior and actions to be like yours because “that’s what I would do” you are in for a rude awakening.
The walls that couples create between themselves are often the results of misunderstanding the focus of your significant other’s “lens”.
If you were able to see through your partner’s lens it would be like a person with 20/20 vision looking at the world through a pair of thick lens glasses (we used to call them coke bottle lenses). Everything would appear blurry, strangely shaped, and OUT OF FOCUS. Nothing would appear the way it normally looks to you.
For a couple, the key to clear communication is to have a simple set of tools that allows them to “refocus” their own lenses to see what their partner sees. This empowers them to avoid conflict, have more productive conversations, and celebrate their differences.
And with your permission, I’d LOVE to share the set of tools I have used for over 27 years to achieve a winning relationship with my wonderful wife.
“This was amazing!! I loved your energy and perspective. You had my mind racing thinking about ways to adapt in my everyday communication.”
Giana, For Momentum
Very well done! An excellent combination of entertainment and education. Lots of practical application.
Brett C, Equity Value Partners
Introducing
The Couples Field Guide
Create a Winning Relationship By Transforming the Way You Communicate
As a human behavior expert, author, ad award-winning speaker, I have been sharing these ideas for effective communication to audiences across the US for 20+ years. As a CEO of a nation wide medical billing company, we have used these techniques to create a winning culture and over 90% retention rate.
I have created this course specifically for couples to reduce conflict and create a mindset shift that will enable you to break down the walls of communication and build a relationship to flourish and stand the test of time.
The Couples Field Guide is the ONLY program of its kind that…
1. Helps You Create More Productive Conversations with Your Significant Other
2. Provides Clarity for Why Your Significant Other Behaves a Certain Way
3. Helps You Discover Your Partner's Motivators So You Can Help Each Other Achieve Your Goals
4. Provides Powerful Tools to Help you Reduce Conflict in Your Relationship
So if you’re ready to finally take your relationship to the next level while avoiding the thousands of dollars in counseling or expensive marriage retreats...
Here's how we'll help you get here:
Module 1
Jump in With Both Feet: Setting the goal of the course to win from the first module!
We discuss the importance of your why. We discuss the reasons that people are so darn crazy (at least to you)!!
Module Highlights:
- What does success look like for the course?
- The causes of miscommunication and how to avoid it
- People are puzzles (how to change frustration to productivity with your significant other)
- You and your SO take your included personality assessments and begin unlocking insights into your relationship.
Module 2
Discover the Methodology: I break down the terms we will use and how you can use them effectively to improve how you communicate with your significant other (from here on SO).
I can divide the world into two kinds of people. Which one are you? Find out in this module.
Module Highlights:
- The four characteristics that we all share
- How do you define winning?
- How do you recharge your batteries?
Module 3
Methodology Deep Dive: Analyze your lens and that of your SO
What motivates you? How about your SO? How do you go about communicating that in your day to day lives?
Module Highlights:
- What are personality styles and how does that play out in your relationship?
- What are your SO's likes and dislikes?
- How can this information help you shape your conversations?
Module 4
All About the Graphs: We take a look at your personality assessments and explain what impact that has on your relationship.
Are you and your SO very similar or off the grid polar opposites?? Whatever the case, we give you tools to help understand one another better.
Module Highlights:
- What does your graph say about you? Your SO?
- What types of activities GIVE and DRAIN your energy?
- Comparing and contrasting your communication styles
Module 5
It's About to Get Intense!! How intense in your traits are you vs. your SO?
How does this affect your ability to adapt to each other on a daily basis? Adaptation is key to keeping the peace.
Module Highlights:
- Which people have the most natural conflict between them?
- How does your intensity affect your ability to adapt?
- How can this information help you shape your conversations?
Module 6
In the Beginning: Relationship fundamentals you may have missed along the way
In this module we establish some relationship foundations so we're all on the same page. We then will couple those with my tools to help make
Module Highlights:
- What are personality styles and how does that play out in your relationship?
- What are your SO's likes and dislikes?
- How can this information help you shape your conversations?
Module 7
Communication Keys: Open the door to better conversations!
By now you've got a great set of tools for more effective communication. In this module we are going to learn how to speak to the soul of your significant other.
Module Highlights:
- Discover motivating statements that will generate a smile on your SO's face- guaranteed!
- Learn the subtleties to have you and your speaking to each other in a language you most want.
- We discuss the differences between influence vs. manipulation.
Module 8
Straight Talk and Celebrations!
In our final module together we will finish strong with some tips on what to do when tempers flare.
Module Highlights:
- Learn the four types of "talk"
- What is "straight talk" and how to use it to stay calm in heated moments
- Celebrate all that you have accomplished and where do we go from here!!
The Path to a Productive Partnership
14-Day Money Back Guarantee
Let me say this up front.
As your Field Guide on this journey it is my responsibility to give you the tools needed to be more successful in your personal relationship. The Couples Field Guide is the most comprehensive couples communication course that ties in human behavioral methodology and relationship fundamentals.
Our community is highly curated and filled with helpful, motivated, and supportive members who are are committed to building a better relationship for themselves and their SOs. When you join, you will be a part of this special group.
Now here's the kicker.
By the end of these 14 days, you'll have received access to the first three modules of the course and your two personality assessments.
Meaning, you'll have had the opportunity to experience the power of the methodology and some of the "aha" moments that it brings BEFORE you make a final commitment.
If you don't feel totally confident and motivated by this course (and your ability to apply the concepts you've learned) show us you have put in the work, and we'll refund your investment. Full details here >>
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
The Complete Couples Field Guide Course- $1997 Value
- Additional Assessment - $100 Value
- Private members-only Facebook group (Only up to 100 course couples) with twelve weeks of community and accountability - $297 Value
- Twice a week Live Q&A sessions with Alex in the Facebook group for the first three weeks of the course to improve clarity and offer guidance - $997 Value
Total Value: $3391.00
When you add it all up, that’s a value of $3391.00
But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:
Pay Monthly
12 Monthly Payments of
$97
OR
Pay Upfront
1 Payment of
$997
Frequently Asked Questions
What people asked before signing up for The Couples Field Guide
Of course not. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing you've always done and expecting different results. This course helps you do a couple's "Reset" and begins wiping the slate clean of the misunderstandings of the past.
This course is specifically designed to open doors that were previously closed. Treat him/her to a nice dinner and then sit down to watch the first lesson together. It will be entertaining and engaging. Once he/she takes the short 10 minute assessment, the conversations will pick up quickly!!
Great question. My 20+ year speaking career and the results I've gotten for my clients speaks volumes. What speaks more clearly is the fact that my wife and I have applied this knowledge in our relationship since 1997. We have 5 kids and both work from home for the same company. If we hadn't used this methodology on a daily basis during that time we simply wouldn't be together today. It's that powerful!!
OK? Just OK? No, no. You and your significant other need to be doing so much better than OK. You need to laugh together more. Enjoy spending time with each other more. Move from just existing together to flourishing together. This course will help you on that path.
If you don't feel totally confident and motivated by this course (and your ability to apply the concepts you've learned) show us you have put in the work, and we'll refund your investment. Full details here >>
Sure thing. Check out the offer below:
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
The Complete Couples Field Guide Course- $1997 Value
- Additional Assessment - $100 Value
- Private members-only Facebook group (Only up to 100 course couples) with twelve weeks of community and accountability - $297 Value
- Twice a week Live Q&A sessions with Alex in the Facebook group for the first three weeks of the course to improve clarity and offer guidance
Bonus 3 - $997 Value
Total Value: $3391.00
When you add it all up, that’s a value of $3391.00
But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:
Pay Monthly
12 Monthly Payments of
$97
OR
Pay Upfront
1 Payment of
$997
The Couples Field Guide is PERFECT for You If…
- You’re ready to make communicating with your significant other much simpler and less stressful
- You’re committed to making your relationship better each and every day
- You’re ready to conquer the conflict in your relationship and enjoy each other’s company like never before
- You truly want to understand why your significant other thinks and communicates the way he/she does
- You want to avoid future miscommunication issues and celebrate your differences
- You want to get insights into your own behavior and why you see the world the way you do
- You want to have real tangible tools to help communicate when things get stressful
If you said “yes” to at least 4 of the above, I can’t wait to meet you inside The Couples Field Guide
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
The Complete Couples Field Guide Course- $1997 Value
- Additional Assessment - $100 Value
- Private members-only Facebook group (Only up to 100 course couples) with twelve weeks of community and accountability - $297 Value
- Twice a week Live Q&A sessions with Alex in the Facebook group for the first three weeks of the course to improve clarity and offer guidance
Bonus 3 - $997 Value
Total Value: $3391.00
When you add it all up, that’s a value of $3391.00
But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:
Payment Monthly
12 Monthly Payments of
$97
OR
Payment Upfront
1 Payment of
$997
