Couples That Argue: Can They Really Stay Together?

Are you feeling like your relationship is always caught in a storm? Are arguments becoming a regular part of your life together? I’m sure you’re wondering if your relationship can survive the arguments at all.

The age-old question: Do couples who argue actually stay together? 

Well, it's a nuanced answer. Arguing in a relationship is not inherently destructive. It can be healthy if it's done constructively. Nobody benefits from name-calling or constant bickering without resolution. But when arguments lead to growth, understanding, and resolution, they can strengthen the bond between partners.

The Importance of Mutual Effort

In a successful relationship, there's a balance of give and take. It's crucial not to plant your flag on the hill and refuse to budge. Both partners need to be willing to compromise and adapt.

When one person consistently gives more than the other, it can lead to unfairness and dissatisfaction. This inequity can ultimately erode the relationship's foundation.

Why Do You Argue at All

We are all wired differently, and our behavior stems from what gives us energy, as well as what takes energy from us. 

Some of us are task-oriented, while some are people-oriented. Some of us prioritize work, while others prioritize family and friends' time. If you’re arguing often, there is a high chance that the character of you and your partner is simply different. But that doesn’t have to be an issue at all. 

It’s important to understand the character of your partner, as much as him/her needs to understand why you do the things you do. A good starting point is taking a DISC Assessment, which will allow you to figure out each other's characters and how to adapt to them. Both of you. 

And remember, it's not the absence of conflict that defines a strong relationship, but how you handle it.